Do you desire a Happy & Peaceful Life ? In this article we read the “7 Do Not’s” that could help us stay happy and peaceful in our daily lives.
1.Do Not think too much of the society’s opinions of you.
I had like to keep this at first. The surest way to a Happy and Peaceful Life. In the east, there’s a saying “log kya kahenge“, it means that people are usually taking wrong decisions because they’re more concerned about “What the society would say“, less about their own Happiness and Peace.
(Let me know what they say in the west) When we are too concerned about what other people would think of us, it is because our ego is making us think that we are the center of the universe. “I” matters a lot in this world. But is that the truth my friend? A study conducted by Karl Pillemer, a gerontologist at Cornell University found that the greatest regrets that the old men and women hold in their hearts is that they “did not follow their heart“. “What if i had followed my passion?” “What if I had proposed her?”
Life would have been different. They repent at the end of their lives. But why did they take such decisions at that point of time? Well because “they thought too much of themselves and the society’s opinion of them, that inturn developed fear within and lead them to taking such decisions. Follow your heart.
2. Do Not keep in your heart any injury done by the other.
Somebody might have broken your heart and you might be carrying that pain in your heart for a lifetime. What really comes of it my friend? Nothing. Just more anxiety and stress. Is it solving any problem? Is it reversing the time? No. This thought has no positive side to it. If a Human Being has any power within himself, it is the Power of Choice.
Let us choose to change the directon of our thoughts today. Let us decide to move on today. Let us decide to write a “Beautiful Today” that is coming our way. I know it’s not easy but it is also not impossible. Are we so weak that we allow our thoughts and our life to revolve around one person? No, You are a warrior my friend. You must decide to wake up now and create your future with positive thoughts and actions. And i know you will do this. I wish you all the Love & Courage.
3. Do not compare yourself to anybody.
In today’s time of Social Media, so many of us compare ourselves (consciously or unconsciously) with others on a number of factors such as the number of followers. the lifestyle, the clothes and the houses. One may have all those things but what do we know about the mental health of such a person? What do we know about one’s personal life? Our eyes see only the Social media pictures and not beyond that! I had the opportunity to give a consultation session to an actress who approached me out of nowhere. Thousands of people might think that there is no better life than hers but after listening to her, i prayed to God to not to give such darkness to anybody. (Now she’s better)
People may have everything you could imagine of, but their Minds have got hold of them. The whole game is in the Mind my friend. Direct your Mind with the gift of wisdom, the discrimination of right and wrong. Think any situation from more than one perspective.
4. Do not build castles in the air.
One of the major reasons of unhappiness is when we do not experience that which we had imagined. Sometimes we make grandiose impractical plans ( this is different from visualisation & setting goals ), and sometimes we also know that they will never happen, still we allow our minds to take us down the rabbit hole of fantasies. Now even if we were aware of it’s impracticality, we allowed it and gave it enough time to grow inside of us. And when that doesn’t come to pass and we feel extremely disappointed. What do we get at the end?
The time is gone. And we get nothing. Why not utilise the same time to improve our skills or find out more ways to improve our lives or do anything productive? Take Control Of Your Thoughts and make practical achievable plans.
5.Do not get “stuck” planning about the future.
It is good to plan because planning gives a sense of direction. But one must not get stuck there. After one has planned, one must start taking action. Many of us spend so much time in planning and procrastination that little time is left to act upon the plans. What if we reverse this scenario? Would it change anything? Can we plan for once and then start acting upon our plans? In Bhagvad Gita (one of the Holy book of Hindus) , Sri Krishna says, “You only have the right to your action. You do not have the right to the results of your action . The results of your work are never in your hands.” Is that true?
I couldn’t agree less, the results are a combination of a lot of factors like timings, intentions, external factors in the environment and many factors that are beyond one’s control.
6.Do not keep bad company.
It is said that a man is the average of the five persons he surrounds himself with. Here “bad” word is very subjective in nature. What may be bad for you, may be good for me. True! So what does bad really mean here? well “bad” means anybody who is not helping you grow. If you have that man/ woman in your life that is demotivating you and discouraging you to achieve your dreams, it is time that you let him/her go. This life is too short to repent. What would you like to repent on, is it holding on to the person who was discouraging you or is it letting go of a beautiful destiny that could be? YOU CHOOSE.
7.Do not make mountains of molehills.
Many of us have a habit of making an issue out of nothing. While some do it only for fun but many others do it out of habits and patterns that have developed over the years. “Why did you keep that bottle on the right and not on the left? Don’t you know how i want it?” O’ well, well, well. Let’s see this in the bigger picture of our lives. What role is that bottle going to play in the picture of my life? What would happen if i just Do Not reply to this person who keeps irritating me?
If we are not sure what would change a particular situation, i strongly recommend you to Experiment Doing the Opposite of what you may have been doing until now and that which has been causing you trouble for so long. What if we do not react in the same way? How would it affect my mood, my behaviour and my time?
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